I Knew I Was Lost, I Asked For Guidance

Whenever I hear the sound of the ocean crashing upon itself in never-ending movement – rising and falling as it measures out time, I think about the beginning of my life and the journey I began and am still traveling.

What Really Makes Women Convert to Islam?


What Really Makes Women Convert to Islam?


As the tides inch their way towards me where I sit on the sand, I remember that the time of my death remains unknown to me.

I feel a sense of fear; of urgency to do more, learn more, discover more before the tides of my own life rise and sweep me along to the Hereafter.

I am like a grain of sand – one tiny part of human existence – a small part of all that has lived.

For many years I lived alone, isolated in a world of fear and unrest. Some happy childhood memories, times of love and joy were always covered by a cloud of uncertainty; a feeling of being lost but not knowing where my real place was.

I watched my life unfold, taking note of the decisions that I made, which either drove me forward or pushed me back. I was constantly moving further away from the light or getting closer to it. It was the source of truth whose reality I recognized deep within my heart.

And Allah increases in guidance those who walk aright and love Allah much. (19:76)

In my isolation, I sought help and comfort in the one who had created me; I had no doubt that there exists a Creator and Sustainer of all things. I knew this as clearly and as surely as I know the sun rises and sets, the movement of the tides, the echo of a thunder storm and the delicate beauty of a spider’s web.

This World in No Accident


No! This world was no accident! As sure as an explosion in a paint factory could never produce an encyclopedia, I always knew this world has a Designer – the Source of all peace.

On Him I called, yet at that time I didn’t know His name but only the reality of Him. His Existence and His Creation was so overwhelmingly obvious that I knew I could ask and He would give: I asked for peace in my troubled heart; I asked to understand my life and what He wanted from me. I asked for guidance for I knew I was lost.

At sixteen years of age, I prayed as I had always done, knowing that He is so Powerful and All-Encompassing that there was no need to pray in the name of Jesus (peace be upon him). I forced myself to throw off the shackles of Christianity and dependence upon Jesus as a medium between my Creator and myself.

I felt a surge of peace and inner quietness. It is a feeling that guided me and still does, telling my spirit that I’m on the right way – just keep going.

Step by step I moved towards the light of truth whose rays flickered far in the distance. I began to measure the success of my life by the amount of peace that I felt within, but so often in the materialistic world in which I lived, this peace and inner joy was drowned out by trivial pursuits and passing pleasures.

I Love Jesus


A deep awareness followed me that every step I took in life is significant – every word counted and followed me like the echo of my reality. So many paths of life confronted me, each one having its own destination. I was in a state of confusion but guided by my inner feeling, which acted like a radar. Surely, the one who wants to be guided, will be guided.


I always felt close to God and prayer was a way of life for me. Deep in my mind, for I could never voice any doubts, I had some misgivings about what I’d been taught about Jesus (peace be upon him): some things didn’t make sense to me, but as a missionary I felt I was calling to God, not to a particular church. I could recognize a harmony and structure in all the nature around me, yet I found an absence of order wherever I looked around people.

If I Convert to Islam, Do I Also Get Baptized?


If I Convert to Islam, Do I Also Get Baptized?


I learned to love Jesus as a messenger of God but it seemed strange to me, that God would require a sacrifice in order to forgive us. I believed that God was above having any need. I felt I could communicate with Him as I was, without the necessity of an intermediary because, again, God didn’t need any help to hear what I said.

As a Christian I had been taught that Jesus was God’s son and that man could only be saved through belief in Jesus. I wondered why God, who was so obviously powerful, would require anything, let alone a son to fulfill His purpose. Why couldn’t the Creator just forgive His creation without an intermediary? I also knew deep within my heart that when mankind stepped away from righteousness, all harmony was lost.

I Kept Searching


I clung to what I’d been taught since a child but I kept looking, searching and thinking.

At school, I learned to be “tolerant.” People said that all religions lead to God. However, instinctively I knew that I knew without any doubt that there was one God, one system of life, one truth, and one path leading to it. There couldn’t be many diverging paths that were so contradictory!

The Jews hate Jesus, the Christians love him, other religions ignore him and some others do not even know him. Are they all true?

At the end of all these religions is there one God; the Creator who made everything so harmonious in nature? Is this the same God who created the marvels of the universe but also allows all this ignorance and confusion and calls it worship? Such an idea lacked logic, respect for human dignity and mercy from the Creator. One God, one truth, one way. But where was it? I kept looking.

Life changes continually but usually these changes take place gradually and are of a subtle nature, and then, from time to time, intermittent situations pound our lives and make us pause and take new directions. One such vital crossroads confronted me in 1983.

New Muslim Neighbors


I was moving into a new flat and had the choice of two apartments. I was unsure which one to take, so as usual, I prayed and asked. I had a very strong feeling that if I moved into one particular flat my life would change dramatically. I was as a boat cast adrift on the sea, led by the winds and tides but my weight affected the direction of the boat. Likewise, our intentions, decisions, and actions steer the course of our lives.

Why Do People Convert to Islam After Reading the Quran?


Why Do People Convert to Islam After Reading the Quran?


I met my neighbors who were Muslims. I thought I would do some missionary work. I always like to remind people about the Creator, goodness, and the existence of truth. What little I knew about Muslims and Islam was colored by the Christian-Judaic doctrine in which I’d been raised. I was taught that Muslims did not believe in Jesus (peace be upon him), that they were ignorant heathens who deserved to be usurped from the land of Palestine. How ignorant I was!

They listened to me patiently, and then I too listened to them. They did not try to explain any complicated issues, they just read to me from the Quran.

First they read in Arabic, then in English. It was the chapter of Maryam (Mary). I listened in silence. The sound was so tranquil – something independent from the reader, something that contained the ability to touch hearts, remove the obstacles we place in front of ourselves, and redirect us towards light, guidance, and that constantly elusive element of life called happiness. I cried. I could not find words to explain my tears and all I could say was, “It’s beautiful.”

I Was Finally Home


The beautiful sound of the Arabic recitation of the Quran and then the plain and direct language of the English translation struck a chord within me.

The beautiful story of Prophet Jesus (peace be upon him) and his miracle birth to the virgin Mary was a marvel of simplicity. God, or as I learned to call Him, Allah, had sent Prophets and Messengers since the beginning of time – Prophet Adam (peace be upon him), Prophet Abraham, Prophet Moses, Prophet Jesus and Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon them all) and many others.

They all came with God’s message: to eschew all worship except the worship of the One True God and to submit to His Will. Such is the meaning of Islam. A Muslim is one who bows to the Will of Allah refusing the worship of anyone or anything else while seeking to establish piety on earth.

The simple story of Jesus (peace be upon him) and his pious mother. The fact that he (peace be upon him) was a special and wondrous creation; that Allah, the Almighty said “Be” and it was. A miracle birth! No need for an intermediary!

One God! One truth! One way of life! One path! I was home!

Our Free Will & Accountability


I learned that prayer is strictly between the individual and God, and that each person is held responsible for the actions they have sent forward. No one can bear the sins of another, not even a parent, child, or friend.

Thus Jesus (peace be upon him), is loved and revered as a Prophet and Messenger of Allah; for his righteousness and closeness to Allah. I learnt that Muslims believe that Jesus (peace be upon him) will come again to the earth and that all the confusion about his origin and role will be wiped away.

Each and every human being on this earth will be held accountable before Allah, the Almighty on the Day of Judgment; it is up to us to obey or disobey our Creator. A famous saying of Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) was that, if we turn to Allah He will turn to us. If we approach Allah by a hand’s span, He approaches us by an arm’s length, and if we go towards Him walking, He rushes towards us.

To Church One More Time


How to Find Your Place in the New Community?


How to Find Your Place in Your New Community?


I knew deep within myself that I had reached the place of light that I had sought for so many years. I was twenty-two years old. I had been a missionary since I was seventeen.

In my heart, I left the church the moment I heard the Quran. But I decided to go to the church one more time to publicly announce in the monthly “testimony meeting” the following Sunday that my life had taken a new direction and I wouldn’t be seeing them again, but that I was glad to have known them and wished them all well.

My leaving the church caused something of an uproar in my family and community. Deep down I knew I was alone in life. Family and friends could come close to us but no one really knows us or can help us except Allah. Indeed, we are born alone, will die alone and will stand for judgment alone. I had always felt alone. I was right.

The loud and often hostile reaction of people is easy to confront when one remains in a state of reliance upon Allah, the Almighty.

I considered myself a Muslim but had a long way to go, much to change and much to understand. I felt like a young child who had just taken her first steps. I knew with conviction that Allah was the One to whom I’d always prayed but it wasn’t until that time that I knew His name and reality. I spent the next five years rediscovering my life.

As I read the Quran in English, I knew that all the things I had ever thought or felt were contained in a book that existed before this world came into being.

Grateful for His Guidance


How deeply grateful I am that Allah has guided me to Islam, despite the propaganda and hype that abounds this world concerning it. Indeed, Allah, the Almighty, will never allow His message to stop, and He will rescue those who have fallen prey to this life if only they turn to Him with sincerity.

What Hands May Do

Spirals of day and night

Coiling upon each other

In rays of light

Moonbeams cheer a weary world

Hiding the ugliness of man’s hands

Which the sun will soon disclose

The mind of man stretches o’er

Time and space

Encompassing past glories and present hopes

Hands clothed in wonder

Snatch sand from the ground

Which runs like water through fingers

That entreat the Power on High

To send forth rain

Clouds drifting on high

Driven like slaves

Shield us from the sun’s harsh rays

Giving life to a parched earth

Once fulfilled

Those same hands assault goodness with evil

Relishing in the power and strength

Provided by the rain

Stretching and snatching all within

Their reach

Grasping for more until the grave

Swallows their desire

Only then do hands lie still

That once pleaded

Then ignored the One Who gave

That once misused power

Forgetting from where it comes

Day and night turn on each other

Unmindful of where and when we fall

Light and dark continues

‘Till the day we see what

Our hands have sent before.

(From Discovering Islam archive.)

He Killed 99 People and Was Still Forgiven!


06 October, 2020


QAs-Salamalaikum, I had a question which is about the man who was a mass-murderer but was forgiven.1. If you commit sin openly the prohet said Allah won't forgive you (is it if you don't repent?) 2. Killing someone would involve the right of people to forgive the murder (won't it?), so will Allah's mercy involve forgiving the killer and rewarding the people affected? 3. Is this man of those who caused corruption on the earth, but repented from it?The reason for me asking this question Sheikh is because I want to know more about the rights of people, and about the fact of sinning intentionally, but more, OPENLY. If you sins openly would it be that you would do the act if front of people, tell people about your sins etc. ? I am a Muslim brother, and we must, or might have at least commited 1 sin openly in front of people right? So would we forgiven for commiting sin openly WITH Intention or not? I also want to include the case of Prophet Yusuf's brother who planned to kill Yusuf (a.s.) and then repent. A MAJORITY of people know about there sins now, and I heard that the prophet said something like don't worry because Allah will forgive you.Sheikh. Please let not just me, but everyone know if we would be forgiven for Open sins: Whether Major, whether Minor. Whether many, whether little. I don't know too much, but maybe when the prophet said that the ones who commit sins openly wouldn't be excused. Is this because they didn't repent, or is it that repentance won't be accepted from those who commit sin out in the open. Or is this because they died at a state without feeling bad about the sins which they have done in the open.I hope to hear from you soon with a reply please to remove confusion from our minds...


ANSWER

Daud Matthews


06 October, 2020


Short Answer: 

When a sin is committed Allah may cover the sin, but if the person talks about it, he has uncovered what Allah covered. This is directly opposing Allah.


The reason for covering the sin is to minimise its impact on society and to give the sinner a chance to repent.


Uncovering the sin creates a greater awareness of the sin and may actually encourage such sin in society. 


Killing someone falls into the category of committing a crime against society and against Allah. Justice has to be done. The debt to society must be paid and repentance and forgiveness can be sought from Allah, by sincere tawbah. 


It must be noted, any request for repentance must take place in this life. Once we die, it is too late to repent.


………….

Thank you for your question. It is a very important topic in Islam involving actions and intentions.

Allah tells us:

And establish the Prayer at the two ends of the day and in the first hours of the night (five times daily prayers). Indeed the good deeds drive away the evil deeds. This is a reminder to those who are mindful of Allah.” [Quran 11:114] 

All actions are according to intentions


All actions are according to intentions. So, if a person commits sins openly and talks or boasts about them, not only are his actions wrong, but he is compounding the sin by showing he doesn’t care for the consequences. Obviously, if one cared about the consequences they would try to cover or hide the sin, and then, ask Allah for forgiveness and repent, that is, perform tawbah.

Talking or boasting about a sin is to show disregard to Allah and suggests arrogance; actions unbecoming to a Muslim. It gives the impression the action was intended. That it was not an act of forgetfulness. 

Covering versus uncovering sins


When the sin is committed Allah may cover the sin, but if the person talks about it, he has uncovered what Allah covered. This is directly opposing Allah. The reason for covering the sin is to minimise its impact on society and to give the sinner a chance to repent. Uncovering the sin creates a greater awareness of the sin and may actually encourage such sin in society.

Allah tells us in the Quran:

“Say: (O Prophet) My servants who have committed excesses against themselves (by committing evil deeds and sins)! Despair not of the Mercy of Allah, surely, Allah forgives all sins. Truly, He is Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful” [Quran 39:53].

Repentance (Tawbah)


This shows if we repent and perform tawbah sincerely even our major sins can be forgiven.

The one sin Allah will not forgive is shirk that is, the association of someone or something with Allah.

It was reported from Abu Musa that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said:

“Allah spreads out His hand at night to accept the repentance of those who committed sins during the day, and He spreads out His hand during the day to accept the repentance of those who committed sins during the night. (He will continue to do this) until the sun rises from the West.” [Muslim]

The Sin of Killing


Killing someone falls into the category of committing a crime against society and against Allah. Justice has to be done. The debt to society must be paid and repentance and forgiveness can be sought from Allah, by sincere tawbah.

I’m not sure I can agree with “rewarding the people affected”. Rather I would suggest compensating the affected people, and Allah knows best.

I’m not sure who you are referring to with your comment “Is this man of those who cause corruption on the earth and repented,” whether this applies to the example you gave or whether it is meant in general terms? Let me quote the following as an example:

He Killed 99 People and Was Still Forgiven!


It was reported from Abu Sa’eed al-Khudri (may Allah be pleased with him) that the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said:

“Among the Children of Israel there was a man who killed ninety-nine people. Then he went out and came to a monk and asked him, ‘Can I repent?’ He said, ‘No,’ so he killed him. Then he (again) started asking, and a man said to him, ‘Go to such and such a town (because the town you live in is very bad, so go to a town with good people). But death caught up with him (before he reached his destination), so he inclined his chest towards (that town, as he was dying). The angels of mercy and the angels of punishment disputed concerning him. Allah inspired (the good town) to come closer to him, and (the evil town to move away from him). Then He said, Measure the distance between them. They found that he was closer (to the good town) by a hand-span, so he was forgiven.” (Bukhari and Muslim)

There is more than one version of this story, but it does emphasise the Mercy of Allah.

Summary


While sins are major and minor, there are sins against individuals/society and sins against Allah. For sins against society, the debt to society has to be paid (in the form of punishment).

Repentance is the most loved form of obedience for a believer, in the eyes of Allah. He loves those who repent. Repentance has a status that no other form of worship has. This is why Allah is extremely happy when a servant repents just as a desert traveler may be happy when he finds his lost camel.

“Except those who repent, have faith and do good deeds, for such people Allah will change their sins for good deeds. Certainly Allah is most forgiving and merciful.” [Quran 25:70] 

Repentance must take place in this life


It must be noted, any request for repentance must take place in this life. Once we die, it is too late to repent.

Also, Allah tells us in a divine hadith, hadith Qudsi:

My Mercy precedes My Wrath.

Repentance and asking forgiveness is what gives the believer hope, that s/he can be forgiven – trusting in the Mercy of Allah..

May Allah grant us the strength and means to perform all our obligatory actions, so that we may strive to be good Muslims and benefit from Allah’s protection? If we make a mistake may He help us to be quick in sincere repentance, Ameen.

And Allah knows best.

I hope this helps.

Salam and please keep in touch.